Our Eyes Met

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It was Thurs evening and I was walking down the street. She was walking in the opposite direction. Initially our eyes met whilst we were standing at the traffic light. And we crossed the road, she looked back and I looked back, and our eyes again!

I had to go back and talk to her. I told her: “our eyes met twice and that is a good thing! Who are you?” “I am Marina!”

I proceeded as thus follows: “I must tell you a story. It will illustrate why I am talking with you. It will only take a 20 seconds.

I remember when I was young, and I was at a tram stop and there was a girl standing across from me and she was wearing black trousers and white blouse, and she was one of the most beautiful females I’ve ever seen. At some point, our eyes met, back then, I was shy, so when she would look at me I would look away, and when I would look at her, she’d look down on her right, and so on.

My tram came and I left. For many months I could recall her! And it was then that I made a conscious decision to talk to a female if our eyes meet. 

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Are The Finns Quiet?

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“Most people who bother with the matter at all would admit that the English language is in a bad way.” —George Orwell

There is one word which describes the Finns—“quiet!” Expatriates use it. Finns use it. The former will tell you that the Finns are quiet. And the Finns will tell you “we’re quiet people!”

The word as it used by people in Finland is misdefined even supposedly educated folks. The expats and natives misuse the word “quiet” when they mean “reserved”.

I draw the opposite conclusion and I will argue for the view that the Finns aren’t quiet. They are talkative, especially females. They’re interesting when you start a conversation. 

Observe when they are with family members or friends or a coworker, they are loud and chatty! Proof of that can be found on the tram/bus/train or at a public place.

Therefore, Finns are only quiet if you are quiet. If you are 1) courageous and 2) socially savvy persons, they will open up to you! 

Why Great Writers Mustn’t Write a Blog

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Aleksis was a famous Finn writer and he wouldn’t be a blogger.

Aspiring authors should follow the advice of the greats: keep a notepad by your bed, read voraciously and write even more so. But one nugget of wisdom may have been missing over the decades: don’t write blogs. 

It takes three days to write a concise and great essay/article/post. As a blogger, you don’t have three days. You just want to put the info out there. 

Finns Are Visual Thinkers

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Finns are visual folks. They like to see things more than feeling. They are not oral people. If they want to know the behaviours, beliefs, likes, dislikes, hopes, dreams, fears, opinions and sexual habits of their next door neighbours, then they must read in the polls and surveys. 

Polls are big business in this country. 

Therefore, a great deal of their decisions is based on image. If you want to get a good result from a Finn (in business or personal), you must help him/her by wearing colourful clothes.

This explains why the majority of Finns wear bright colours: green, orange, yellow, purple, red and so on. 

They want to standout from the crowd visually. 

The Philosophy of Preparation 

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“If you wish to move mountains tomorrow, you must start by lifting stones today.”

—African Proverb

First, empty your mind and go to the field of knowledge. Are Finns— quiet, socially closed, or reserved? Choose your simile and make sure you get rid of it for good as soon as possible. 

Never mind what and who they are. What matters is who you are, not what you think of them.

The main reason why the Africans aren’t doing well in Finland is because they adhere to the common beliefs of the Finnish culture.

Do not think for the Finns. They are capable of thinking for themselves—good or bad! 

If you believe they are quiet, then they will appear to you that way. 

“If your mind is empty, it is always ready for anything, it is open to everything. In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s mind there are few. ” — Shunryu Suzuki

Remember: the world is what you think of it. So, that is also true for what you think of the Finns. 

How to see things

“One only sees what one looks for. One only looks for what one knows.”― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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DO you only see the gentleman? What else do you see?

In our times, to see things as they are, not as the celebrities want us to see them, is hard because it takes time to see things.

WE simply tell ourselves: “we don’t have a time.” Sure, we have the time. We are unwilling to make the effort to see things.

It takes courage to see things as they really are. It takes time and energy. 

If we are willing to give the time and the energy, we can indeed see things clearly. 

Observe yourself. Observe others. Observe sideways. Observe nature. Observe everything.

 

Thinking is more interesting than knowing, but less interesting than looking.―Johann Wolfgang von Goethe